The Friends of Change

Change is inevitable.

My life opens a new chapter in a few days. For two years, I’ve been on a roller coaster of highs and lows I hesitate to think about. The most important lesson I have learned is this:

Strap yourself in for the ride.

From one day to the next, we are lulled into the illusion of security. Over months and years, we adapt to repetition and our brains push similar experiences into the background just as they’re supposed to.

Life takes different turns than we anticipate.

The shock to the system is unsettling, rattling our minds and burning the blankets of safety draped over our plans. These moments, the scanty few when everything explodes before your eyes, burn deep impressions into our memory banks. When we look back to see how far we’ve come, this is where we point.

What defines us is our response during the harrowing events.

As everything crashes around us, the temptation is to fall to pieces ourselves. In fact, doing so is the easy option, the path of least resistance. Staring at the rubble would make any of us question the sense of making another go, discouragement is natural.

Shrinking is unacceptable.

I’ve been knocked off my feet by the shockwave of an atomic bomb several times–launched by others or dropped on myself by accident–and I’ve realized what’s important always remains. The trivial is too weak to withstand a hundred-megaton blast and is vaporized by the heat and pressure.

What really matters is too solid to collapse.

“Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel” Shakespeare tells us. When fire rages through our hopes and dreams, torching all we wished for, the mere thought of these relationships galvanizes us for the rebuilding effort. Some will help with reconstruction and others will support from afar.

Thank them.

Tell them you love them.

Offer help when they need it.

Finding the means to keep going is easier when you have some friends.


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2 Responses to “The Friends of Change”

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