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Trait Success


Success has many components.

The afterglow of achievement has a tendency to captivate our attention. When the pay off arrives from long effort, it’s natural to relax and bask in the sunshine of victory.

Sometimes it leads to amnesia.

To put it plainly, I have a hard time remembering what I did leading up to an ideal outcome. It seems the hand I use to pat myself on the back is the same one I write with. Thus, the knowledge I’ve gained is often lost for the sake of self-congratulation.

Flipping through my memories, I’ve found three traits consistent do my best performances:

1. In practice
It’s often said success leaves clues, a trail carved by previous experience to guide future action. My results are inevitably linked to taking time to evaluate what could be used again — perhaps with a tweak or two — so I could avoid going about willy-nilly when the next opportunity arises.

2. Intuitive confidence
There are moments — and not nearly enough of them — when a decision is right even though I can’t explain why. Despite the fact I have lingering doubts, my mind is able to feed on the certainty instead of insecurity. The response is reflexive, as though my brain vomits up the answer while still being asked the question.

3. In joy
It seems as though elation is inextricably linked to accomplishment, which will come as a surprise to no one. Slipping into the gray area between work and play bends time and lightens loads. I find the challenge seems less than monstrous and the exertion far from taxing as the hours fly by.

Triumph can multiply fast if allowed to.

By considering what creates the good with the level of scrutiny I use to dissect the bad, I better position myself up for a streak of positive conclusions.

In this way, the value of attaining a goal lasts a long time.


Structural Failure

The Productive Pause

The Achievement Cycle

Still Your Heart

The winding path from the cradle to the grave is fraught with challenges.

In one encounter after another, we make choices and evaluate our experiences. As we seek out the meaning behind all of our sufferings and triumphs, we come across a stark truth:

Nobody will ever fully understand us, no matter how hard they try.

Regardless of the force the exerted to pry every door open, it is impossible for someone else to completely step into the space between our ears. Even the most adept of thieves, robbing us of everything that might be taken, will find a steel vault in a dark corner that cannot be opened.

It’s unlikely, then, anyone could ever tell us what to do when we come to a crossroads. They have an idea and may be worth consulting, but ultimately we make our own decisions. (Possibly skewed by the weight we give one opinion or evidence we fail to consider, obviously.)

Stick with what you know.

Hear the forceful whisper echoing from deep within, absorb the unshakable power — and act.

Fall (or leap) when your intuition pushes you.

Go where it leads, regardless of what others may say.

Walk your own way.

It’s still your heart.


Never Good Enough

The Truth is Undeniable

The Faith Soliloquy

3 Ways to Ask God “Why?”

Is there only one way to get
where you’re going?

“God has a reason.”

In the midst of challenging times, someone is always there to remind you there is a grander design at work. At some point in history, someone decided hearing those four words would comfort the injured.

During crushing heartbreak, I can think of nothing I’d rather hear less.

I struggle with the idea that some of us are chosen to experience higher highs–and higher lows–than the rest of us. Why does one reach the peaks of life when another languishes in ruin? Does God like that individual better than me?

Pointing beyond this life is the next step.

Whilst your soul wails against the pain, you may feel like it’s wrong to wonder why you’re hurting so much. Years of conditioning led to you to believe you should be an unquestioning servant, yet you can’t help but ask “What good could this heartache possibly serve?”

And then you resent God.

Regardless of the answer, your despair would keep you from being satisfied with it. This is why the prism of hindsight is always clearest. Instead of looking at a tree, you’re able to see the whole forest because the wounds have healed.

I believe each of us has an ordained purpose, though we have the power to choose how well we live it out. Throughout our days, we are given forks in the road. It seems to me there is always an option to head towards “that thing” we’re made for and another to go our own way. Our degree of happiness and contentment is a good measuring stick for the righteousness of the way steered.

By accepting responsibility, you are more equipped to navigate the inevitable highs and lows of every alternative.

Over the last several months, as I’ve continued to look at the various outcomes throughout my life, I’ve come up with three questions that help me identify whether I’m on track or on my own tangent:

1. Are you suffering because of the choice you made three decisions ago?
It’s funny how picking one option leads you to stay on that same path when faced with the next turn and the ones after that. A stubborn tendency to pursue something to its end is a good thing, though you must be mindful of learning “at the end of a feather or a hammer.” The further you push along an ill-advised course, the harder you will be hit.

2. What feelings did you have at the time?
One thing I struggle with is trusting my intuition. As an example, I was talking with an ex one night about our relationship. She felt our love was unbalanced and was unsure she’d be able to make up the difference. Though she wanted to give it an effort, she intimated she “didn’t want to make any promises,” just as she had when the discussion popped up the first time.

I immediately felt a mental push to walk away, but ignored that instinct and gave her another shot. Two months later, we had the discussion again and parted ways. Unfortunately, I learned a hard lesson on the value of those flashes of certainty.

3. What can you do differently?
Avoid the temptation to let the results of a choice bring you down forever. Instead of constantly thinking you’re cursed and repeating mistakes all your life, understand the onus is on you and use that freedom to move in a new direction with the unhappy experience as a springboard.

Predestination is a convenient excuse to shed accountability, a means by which to say others are “just more blessed” or your time is “coming” while you sit idly by. The belief that you are drifting along and getting what you “should” is misguided, or at the very least incomplete. You have work to do. You have to develop your skills and abilities to do what you’re here for.

Stop ignoring your gifts. Quit insulting God.


Victor Hugo – “There are thoughts which are prayers.”

Believing In Possibility

Rewrite Your Code

Asking Questions Unafraid of the Answers

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